Frustrated in your relationship?
No longer feeling that sexual charge with your partner?
Struggling with sexual issues?
When the same fight continually occurs, it intensifies feelings of aloneness. Your relationship feels less safe and you don’t feel like having sex with your partner. It seems like a long time ago that you said that you’d honor and cherish each other. We know that disappointment happens in relationship. However, these struggles are part of relationship and don’t necessarily define failure. When we meet these challenges with understanding, it is an opportunity for growth.
We are hard wired for connection
As humans, we are hard wired for connection. This begins as an infant with attachment to a primary caregiver. What we experienced in childhood influences the needs we have in relationship with a significant other. We are seeking security, safety, and a sense of belonging. Loss of connection makes us feel isolated. We need connections as humans, especially with our chosen significant other, our beloved.
Seeking to recreate that spark with your partner?
You need encouragement to move forward. Boulder Sex Therapy can help you. We support clients to create solutions that work and to regain meaning in their relationship. Committed relationships are a journey of self-growth and development. How you handle the obstacles determine the quality of relationship. We will help you move toward a more satisfying relationship filled with mutuality, respect, and humility.
Some helpful tips:
- Use appreciation 5 times as often as negative comments when communicating with your partner.
- Claim responsibility for the state of your relationship; ask “What can I learn from this experience?” and “What I can do to change it?”
- Make specific requests of your partner; be clear and be respectful about your needs and desires.