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Women’s 10 Biggest Worries About Sex — And How To Ease The Anxiety

News — Fri, 24 May 2013 12:00:54 +0000

Sometimes sex can be a great stress reliever, but when the source of anxiety is sex itself, take a close look at what worries you. Women are often burdened by a host of sexual insecurities derived from image issues, misinformation about what is normal, and perceived social judgment. The Huffington Post provides a list of ten items that plague the minds of many women, and possibly prevent them from getting the most out of sex. Resist the urge to stress out over sexual performance, unrealistic comparisons, or unsettling fantasies. Arm yourself with information in this article regarding infrequent orgasm, STDs, and lagging sexual confidence, among other common worries.

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8 Ways to Help Your Man Last Longer

News — Wed, 22 May 2013 12:00:10 +0000

If your man is embarrassed about his tendency to climax early, a bit of compassion and a proactive approach may be all that is needed to overcome this common sexual hurdle. To mutually satisfy, look for ways to prolong his erection. (1) Practice Control. Encourage masturbation or practice stopping and starting when making love. (2) Decrease blood flow. Use a helpful sex toy or the “penis grip” for better timing. (3) Delay penetration. Change positions or request oral sex to slow things down. (4) Desensitize his penis. Consider creams or a condom to lessen penile friction and intensity. These tips can help reduce frustration and increase body awareness.

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How Does Sex Differ from Intimacy?

News — Mon, 20 May 2013 12:00:05 +0000

Is sex without love intimate? Traditionalists would argue that intimacy speaks to the heart of a couple’s connection; it envelops the partners’ freedom and ability to be seen, heard, and understood. In that context, sex is built upon the union. Yet, for those who join with others in mutually satisfying sexual exchanges without relationship, intimacy is understood only as the vulnerability of the momentary bond. Sometimes it becomes a question of “just sex” or “making love.” Sometimes it’s a question of finding ways to be intimate without sex at all. Open, honest communication can lead to a comfortable level of intimacy for both partners and a healthier, sexier union.

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Is Your Body Image Getting in the Way of Your Sex Life?

News — Fri, 17 May 2013 12:00:42 +0000

Author Michael Alvear asks nine questions of women who suspect their sex lives are suffering due to their body perceptions. A woman who gives more thought to whether the lights are off or if her “stomach is sticking out too much” than her lover, may have a problem. Alvear suggests that women in this position learn to relate to sex and their bodies differently. He advocates that women learn to be “good in bed” as means of building confidence thereby taking the focus off themselves. He also suggests that women seek out healthy information from books by body image experts rather that pressure-filled women’s magazines.

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Majority Of Men With Erectile Dysfunction Do Not Seek Treatment

News — Wed, 15 May 2013 12:00:59 +0000

If 15 to 30 million men suffer from erectile dysfunction, why aren’t more doctors treating it? According to data collected between June of 2010 and June of 2011, researchers found that most men who are diagnosed with erectile dysfunction do not seek treatment. Of the 6.2 million men who participated in the large-scale study, only 25.4 percent sought help. A doctor at the University of Kansas Medical Center in Kansas City noted that erectile dysfunction is hardly a secret and available treatment is promoted frequently in the media. Whatever keeps men away is not yet understood and requires more research.

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Husband Heartbroken Over Sexless Marriage

News — Mon, 13 May 2013 12:00:06 +0000

Ask Amy columnist Amy Dickinson addresses the concern of a 56-year-old man struggling in a sexless marriage. Married for two decades, he explains the circumstances that surround their 8-year drought. Though he is still attracted to his wife, he shares that she feels unconnected to him and remains uninterested in sex despite his efforts to meet her needs. Amy reminds him that men and women often see sex differently, and suggest they step away from daily life frequently to reconnect. She encourages him to be intentional, listen to his wife, and create a physically intimate atmosphere without sexual pressure. She also advises him to employ the help of a marital counselor.

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The Sexual Side Effects of Chemotherapy

News — Fri, 10 May 2013 12:00:04 +0000

Psychologists advocate sexual intimacy for couples braving chemotherapy but several factors may hamper sexual ability or desire. Couples must first talk to their doctor to determine whether sex is safe. Then, they should acknowledge the impact therapy has on energy levels and self-esteem. Medical conditions like erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness are possible side effects, but can be managed and may be temporary. Vaginal infections are also common, as are frequent flare-ups for patients with genital warts or herpes. Fortunately, these side effects subside after treatment. Communication with doctors and between partners is vital to the health of the patient and the relationship.

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Caressing Women: Advanced Erotic Tips For Men

News — Wed, 08 May 2013 12:00:55 +0000

Gentlemen, her body is a playground, so stay a long time and enjoy every feature. Demonstrate interest in every part, paying special attention to less travelled paths through her hair or across her back. Be teachable, she can be an expert pleasure guide if you ask a few considerate questions. When exploring her erotically, caress but don’t drift toward uncomfortable tickling, aggressive kissing, or rough handling of her body. Likewise, be patient. Encourage her need for special preparation and genital play, ask her if the time is right. Finally, don’t end playtime too early, kiss and touch after orgasm, and consider resources like the Kama Sutra for more ideas.

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Rediscover Your Sex Drive

News — Mon, 06 May 2013 12:00:16 +0000

Sometimes a woman’s sex drive stalls and she needs to learn to enjoy the ride again. To rediscover desire, communication with her lover and sensory play is key. Taste an edible aphrodisiac or employ vibration techniques to improve arousal. To combat libido-dampening stress, practice healthy habits and resist “stress-relievers” like alcohol and cigarettes. If physiological or medical conditions might be roadblocks on the way to a fulfilling sex life, contact a doctor for a check-up and seek out viable solutions. Keep in mind that practice makes perfect and regular stimulation with sex toys may put desire back on track.

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Conflict! What to Do and What Not to Do

News — Fri, 03 May 2013 12:00:56 +0000

How do we handle conflict? If our parents handled conflict badly by fighting, ignoring the conflict, giving up, or shutting down, we may have had no role model for dealing with conflict in a healthy way. There is conflict in all relationships and how a couple handles it can indicate the health or dysfunction of the relationship. Conflict triggers many types of fear. Fear leads to the “fight, flight, or freeze” stress response. When this stress response happens, the blood leaves our brain, organs, and immune system and travels to our arms and legs for fight or flight. When the blood leaves our brains, rational thinking does too and resolving conflicts is difficult.

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